Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Few Good Short Message Service(SMS) - Part 7

  • Don’t hate anyone in your life…
    Bcoz, Someone makes u happy,
    Someone gives u experience, &
    Someone teaches u how to face troubles.
  • A single lovable smile is a proper key
    for many solutions and many confusions..!
    So, express your smile every moment.
  • Its true that Medicine & friendship cure our problems,
    The only difference is that
    friendship doesn’t have an expiry date…
  • It is better, far better, to die on the field of duty,
    preaching the truth, than to die like a worldly worm.
    (Swami Vivekananda)
  • Life at any time can become difficult.
    Life at any time can become easy.
    Good r Bad, they are seasons of life.
    It all depends upon how u take on life
    & adjust to the seasons.
  • Unbeatable lines:
    ‘Listen and Silent’ are two words with same alphabets…
    Remember, only a dear one can listen to you, when you are silent!
    That is friendship.
  • Before the clock strikes twelve let me take the opportunity to let you know that you have grown a year more...
    Happy birthday...
  • Somebody up there Loves you
    Somebody down here cares for you
    That's me....
    Happy Birthday!!!
  • This msg has No Fat
    No Cholesterol n No Addictive
    this is all natural except, with a lot of sugar.
    But it can never be as sweet as the one reading it.
    Happy Birthday!
  • Its just another day, but this one is the best of the year!
    Happy Birthday to a special friend!
  • How do you expect me to remember your birthday, when you never look any older?
    Anyway, have a rocking day.....as today is your special day; Happy Birthday!
  • Your birthday is the perfect day to say I care, because you will remember me when u certainly make it a big affair and when you do hold a party... I bet you will be the one who would care to make ur special day a costly affair!!!!
  • Let GOD decorate each GOLDEN RAY OF THE SUN reaching u with wishes of Success, Happiness and prosperity 4 U, Wish you a super duper Happy Birthday.
  • Wish you a many many happy returns of the day. May God bless you with health, wealth and prosperity in your life. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU.
  • Its a nice feeling when you know that someone likes you, someone thinks about you, someone needs you; but it feels much better when you know that someone never ever forgets your birthday."HAPPY BIRTHDAY".
  • Angry is the punishment given to you
    by yourselves for others mistakes.
  • When u run so fast to get somewhere,
    U miss the fun of getting there.
    Life is not a race, so take it slower.
    Hear the music b4 the song is over.
  • Adversity causes some men
    to break; Others to break records.
  • To handle yourself, use your head.
    To handle others, use your heart too.
  • You don't develop courage by being
    in your relationships everyday.
    You develop it by surviving difficult times
    and challenging adversity.

It's not how much you have that
makes people look up to you,
it's who you are.
~Elvis Presley~

  • The last ‘impressive’ one:
  • You get wise from listening and
    regret from speaking.
  • Life’s just like a cloud; we are moving without end. Nothing stays with us.
    What remains with us are the memories which none can steal forever.

In tough times you will always find 2 hands eagerly
Awaiting to help you & those hands will be ur own hands.
(Kennedy)

  • Care is a sweet word. If someone says ‘Take Care’,
    It means you live in that person’s heart till the last beat.
    So, Take Care!
  • A single word spoken at the time of anger is more poisonous
    and makes us to forget the hundred lovable conversation
    within a minute.
  • No sweet messages to wish,
    No cool ringtones to send,
    No nice pictures to forward,
    But, I have a ‘true heart’ to say ‘Take Care’!
  • Worrying doesn’t reduce yesterday’s sorrows,
    But it empties today’s strength.
    So, don’t every worry! Keep smiling!!
  • Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again this time
    more intelligently with God’s blessings.
  • Noble birth is an accident of fortune,
    Noble actions characterize the great.
  • The gem cannot be polished without friction,
    Nor a person perfected without trials.
  • As always, the last impressive one:
  • Give thousand chances for your enemy to become your friend,
    But, give no chance for your friend to become your enemy.
  • Affection is easy to obtain,
    But, once gained, it is difficult to maintain
    And once lost, it can never be regained.
    So, like the one who likes you.
  • Easy to lose someone by saying a lie…
    But, difficult to get back that person by saying truth.
    It’s a fact in everyone’s life. So, be loved forever!
  • Every walk of life will contain Ups & Downs,
    Stones & Sand, Flowers & Thorns, Hard soil & Soft Soil,
    So my sincere advice is to….
    Wear Chappal or Shoes!
  • Find arms that’ll hold you at your weakest
    The Eyes that’ll see you at your ugliest
    And, A Heart that’ll luv you at your worst.
    If you’ve found it, you’ve found your LIFE….!
  • The plus (+) symbol was made with two minus symbols.
    So, all negative things can be shaped as positive
    by our hardwork and positive thinking.
  • SMILE….
    Sets U free
    Makes U special
    Increases energy
    Lifts up spirits
    Erases all tensions.
    So, Keep smiling always!
  • The last one, hilarious & thought-provoking!

 

  • There are no great people in this world, only great challenges which ordinary people rise to meet. Meet all your challenges with strength.
  • B a Poet when u r alone…B a King when u command…..B a Lover when u c beauty….B a History when u die…..and B a Friend until I die.
  • As long as u have memories, yesterday remains,
    As long as u have hope, 2morrow awaits,
    As long as u have friendship, each day is never a waste.
  • A true friend is not like the rain which pours and go away,
    A true friend is like the air, sometimes silent, but always around!
  • Unexpected care always keep us happy,
    But, expected care always make us unhappy.
  • The last impressive one:


Who said OPEN and CLOSE are opposite words?
We are always OPEN to the Person whom we are very CLOSE.

Monday, April 27, 2009

Few Good Short Message Service (SMS) - Part 6

  • Hope is knowing that a positive outcome awaits you...
    It is not only expecting dreams come true...
    But, having a deep assurance that it is within your reach.
  • My heart is like an open book…
    It depends upon how you read me,
    Don’t judge me by my cover
    Look in n discover, I’ll be true friend forever.
  • Not every bird can dance, but peacock did that
    Not every flower can represent love, but rose did that
    Not every friend can reach up to my heart, but YOU did that.
  • What is ‘friendship’?
    It’s a ship loaded with ‘luv, hug, care & share’
    Crossing the sea of heart having no wheels of ‘sorry’ & ‘thanks’.
  • Most touching lines written to the best friend
    “Ever u miss me, never u cry….
    For a drop of tear in ur eyes,
    Is a day less in my life”
  • God asked me “What did u earn in ur life till today?”
    I just replied ‘I earned a few tears from the eyes of person reading this msg when I die’.
  • The last, quite good one, for now:
  • We are like tea bags whose strength comes out when put in hot water
    So, when problems beset u, just think,
    U must be God’s favorite cup of tea.
  • Most of the times we Forget someone who made us smile,
    Why can’t we sometimes Forgive those who made us cry…
  • Rich people travel in Car
    Poor people travel in Bus
    But, Sweet people travel in Hearts!
    Pls. continue your journey in my Heart…
  • Friendship is not a big fire which burns all the day,
    It’s a small lamp that burns till the last day of life.
  • The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in Moments of comfort,
    But, where he stands at times of Challenge & Controversy…
  • Don’t walk in front of me, I’m not your Follower.
    Don’t walk in back of me, I’m not your Leader.
    Come let’s walk together, I’m your friend Forever.
  • A Fact -

People don’t change when you tell them a better Option,
They change only when they realize that there is no other way…

  • As always, the last one….so special….
  • The biggest loss in life –
    Tears in someone’s eyes bcoz of you
    The biggest achievement of life –
    Tears in someone’s eyes for you.
  • Begin the day with a light heart
    Let all your worries be swept aside
    Smile a moment and thank God, for this day He cares for you all the way.
  • Sometimes words are not comfortable to express our feelings…
    But our true lovable ones understand our feelings without any words….
    You are one among them….for me.
  • Friendship is like an Onion which has many layers in it,
    It will add taste to your life, but if you try to cut it,
    you will have tears in your eyes.
  • Failure is a single page in a part of life…
    But, Success is a book of dictionary!
    Don’t lose a full book for a single page…
  • Big things are achieved, by making a small compromise.
    (Swami Vivekananda)
  • Sometimes you might walk alone on a new path,
    No one in sight….No one seems to have walked it before…
    Don’t give up midway. You are on the right track…
    The reason you do not see anyone is bcoz the world is following you.
    Go on…..Reach your dreams.
  • Egg broken from OUTSIDE – a Life Ends.
    Egg breaks from WITHIN – a Life Begins.
    So Remember, “GREAT things always begin from WITHIN”

Saturday, April 25, 2009

Few Good Short Message Service (SMS) - Part 5

  • Nothing ever becomes real till it is experienced. Even a proverb is no proverb to you till your life has illustrated it.
  • In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream always wins; not thro’ strength, but thro’ persistence.
  • A lovely friendship should have the determination of a mirror which never loses its ability to reflect even if it is broken into thousand pieces.
  • The true measure of a person is not how he behaves in moments of comfort & convenience, but how he stands at times of controversy & challenges.
  • Friendship is not written by chalk to erase or written again; it is written with the ink of love on the wall of heart that can’t be changed.
  • We are all inventors…each sailing out on a voyage of discovery, each guided by a private chart of which there is no duplicate. The world has all gates, all the opportunities….all u have to do is …decide which one you want to explore.
  • One of the magic things we know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon, instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows.
  • The last one for now, quite impressive:
  • Extending one hand to help somebody has more value than joining two hands for prayer.
  • Days may end without seeing you
    Days may end without talking to you
    Days may end without messaging you
    But, the Day never ends without remember you..
    • Charlie Chaplin words:
      Life laughs at you when you are unhappy…
      Life smiles at you when you are happy,
      But, Life salutes you when you make others happy.
  • Life is a rocky path…sometimes we trip & fall..
    But, that doesn’t mean we should give it up…
    U got to lift your head up & press on.
  • We always look n care for persons whom we love the most…
    But, we fail to look back those persons who love us the most..
    Don’t miss them in life!
  • When you want to enjoy life, think today as your First Day…
    When you what to achieve something in life, think today as your life’s Last Day!
    • Excellent Words from Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam
      The Dream is not what you see in Sleep…
      Dream is the thing which does not let you Sleep.
    • A William Shakespeare Quote:
      Affection is not measured when both take care of each other;
      It is measured when one ignores, and the other still continues to care.
  • Once v r born, v r ought to die at any moment.
    Memories also die when v die.
    Its true nothing will remain with us except
    our Name in somebody’s heart!
    Try to earn more hearts!!
  • No man is worth your tears,
    But once you find one that is,
    He won’t make you cry!
  • God often uses small matches to light up great torches
    And no matter how small u feel in this world,
    He has something big in store for u.
  • It is painful when we get hurt from our closed ones,
    But, the pain silently tells us how much we love that person.
  • It takes one minute to get a crush,
    One hour to like someone,
    One day to love someone,
    But a lifetime to forget....
  • Don’t forget this in life….
    Don’t believe the doubted one..
    Don’t doubt the believed one.
  • Why do women live longer than men?
    Bcoz, shopping never causes heart attacks,
    But, paying the bill does!!!
  • Watch your thoughts….
    For they become words.
    Choose your words….
    For they become actions.

Sunday, April 19, 2009

Few Good Short Message Service (SMS) - Part 4

  • Life is 10% of what happened to you, and 90% of how you respond to it!!

  • A Person Dreaming

    Of An Ambition

    Without Effort,

    Is Much Similar

    To A Bird Flying

    With Wings

    And

    No Legs To Land.

  • Strange But True -

    Say Good About Yourself & You will be called “Arrogant”

    Say Bad about Yourself & You will be “Believed”

  • The Trouble With Being

    Punctual Is

    That Nobody's There To Appreciate It.

  • Two Things Indicate WEAKNESS..

    One To Be Silent, When It Is the Proper Time To Speak..

    Second To Speak, When It Is the Proper Time To Be Silent.

  • Two Great Days In Human Life:

    1.The Day We Were Born &

    2.The Day We Prove Why We Have Born!

  • Life will be pleasant, if we are satisfied with what we have,

    But, will be more thrilling, if we make efforts to achieve what we desire.

  • Friendship is like the relation between hands & eyes,

    It is like when the hands get hurt, the eyes cry,

    & when the eyes cry the hands wipe its tears.

  • Being possessive doesn’t mean that the loved ones doubt u..

    They really don’t want others to use the sweetness of your character.

  • Life is not a CD Player, where we can enjoy our favorite songs,

    But, is like a Radio, where we have to learn to enjoy whatever comes…!

  • Wonderful lines in a Bus Stop in Japan:

    Only buses will wait here. Not your Time!

    So keep walking towards your goal!!

  • Keep all your troubles in your pocket,

    But, be sure that your pocket has a hole in it!

  • The minute you think of giving up…

    Think of the reason why you held it so long…!!

 

Credit goes to original compiler of these SMS message who posted this in a forum

Friday, April 17, 2009

Good joke on Software Project Manager!

The local bar was so sure that its bartender was the strongest man around that they offered a Rs 10,000 bet. The bartender would squeeze a lemon until all the juice ran into a glass, and hand the lemon to a patron. Anyone who could squeeze one more drop of juice out would win the money. Many people like weight-lifters, wrestlers, body builders, etc had tried over time, but nobody could do it.

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One day this scrawny little man came in, wearing thick glasses and a safari suit, and said in a tiny, squeaky voice, "I'd like to try the bet." After the laughter had died down, the bartender said OK, grabbed a lemon, and squeezed away. Then he handed the wrinkled remains of the rind to the little man.

But the crowd's laughter turned to total silence as the man clenched his fist around the lemon and 5-6 drops fell into the glass. As the crowd cheered, the bartender paid the Rs 10,000, and asked the little man, "What do you do for a living?

Are you a weight-lifter, or what?"

"No," replied the man.

"I work as a project manager in a software company !!

Thursday, April 16, 2009

Few Good Short Message Service (SMS) - Part 3

  • Success is the good fortune that comes from aspiration, desperation, perspiration and inspiration.

  • Intellectuals solve problems; Geniuses prevent them.

  • Failing to Plan is Planning to Fail.

  • Sometimes small things in life hurt a lot….

    If u don’t agree with me,

    Well, TRY TO SIT ON A PIN!!!

  • When God drops needles and pins along your path in life, don’t avoid them. Pick them up and collect them. They were designed to teach you to be stronger.

  • If your eyes are sweet, you would like all the people of the world.

    But, if your tongue is sweet, all the people of the world will like you.

  • Mistakes are painful when they happen

    But, years later a collection of mistakes is called Experience,

    which leads u to success.

  • When God closes a door, He opens a window….but at times He shuts both. Worry not, for He would tear down the roof…..so His blessings could overflow.

  • Success is like ur own shadow….if u try to catch it u will never succeed….ignore it and walk in ur own way. It will follow u!

  • The most beautiful thing is to see a person smiling & even more beautiful is knowing that u r the reason behind it. Be a reason for others to smile. Gud day!

  • Its not necessary to share every secret between true friends,

    But, its important that whatever u share is true.

  • In this world people will always throw stones in the path of ur success,

    It depends only on you… what you make from them, a Wall or a Bridge.

  • Start the work in the name of God

    Do the work with the help of God

    Finish the work with thanks to God

    Bcoz he decides, gives and makes everything possible.

  • Golden words of Hitler:

    When you are in light everyone will follow you but when you enter in darkness, even your own shadow will leave you. That’s life.

  • Coincidence decides whom u meet in life,

    Ur heart decides whom u want to stay in ur life...

    And, Destiny decides who will get to stay in ur life...

  • Never be like the hand that crushed the flower, but be like a crushed flower which leaves fragrances in the hands that crushes it.

  • Good judgement comes from experience. Unfortunately, the experience usually come from bad judgement.

Credit goes to original compiler of these SMS message who posted this in a forum

Monday, April 13, 2009

Few Good Short Message Service (SMS) - Part 2

  • We are judged by what we finish, not what we start.

  • When you at the edge of a cliff, sometimes progress is a step backwards.

  • Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.

  • Its better to let someone think you are an idiot than to open your mouth and prove it.

  • Trusting in God won’t make the mountain smaller, but will make climbing easier. Don’t ask Him for a lighter load but ask Him for a stronger back.

  • A true friend is never measured by the number of times he made u laugh…..but, by the number of times he made u laugh after u cried.

  • We never have what we like, we never like what we have, still we live, love and hope that some day we will get what we love and love what we have. That’s life.

  • If you desire to blossom like a rose in the garden, first you have to learn the art of adjusting with the thorns.

  • Life is more strict than a teacher.

    A teacher teaches a lesson and takes an exam.

    But, life takes an exam and then teaches a lesson.

  • Never trust the advice of a man in difficulties.

  • If u can solve ur problem, then what is the need of worrying? If u can’t solve it, then what is the use of worrying?

  • Morning is God’s way of saying 1 more time…

    Go, live life, make a difference, touch one’s heart, Encourage 1’s mind, inspire 1’s soul & enjoy the day.

  • In life, don’t expect anything from anyone

    Bcoz expectation, when not fulfilled, gives you pain,

    When u get something without expecting it,

    It gives u pleasure. Keep doing your part,

    And leave the rest to God.

  • Life gives answer in 3 ways….

    It says YES & gives u what u want,

    It says NO & gives u something better,

    It says WAIT & gives u the best.

  • Treat everyone with politeness,

    Even those who are rude to you,

    Not bcoz they are not nice,

    But bcoz YOU are nice.

Credit goes to original compiler of these SMS message who posted this in a forum

Thursday, April 09, 2009

Few Good Short Message Service (SMS) - Part 1

  • If someone hurts you, don’t mind because its the law of nature that tree that bears the sweetest fruit, gets the maximum number of stones.

 

  • When you are successful
    your well wishers know
    who you are;
    when you are unsuccessful
    you know
    who your well wishers are

 

  • We always feel bad & think that good things happen only to others
    But we forget that we are others for someone else.

 

  • Apologizing doesn’t mean that you are wrong n the other is right,
    It only means that u give value to relationships much more than Your personal Ego”.

 

  • Don't let someone become a priority in your life
    when you are an option for them

 

  • When U Have Money In Hand,
    Only U Forget Who U R.
    But When U Do Not Have Any Money In Hand,
    The Whole World Forgets Who U R

 

  • What is success ?
    In simple..
    Success is……
    When your Signature becomes an Autograph.

 

  • Listen 2 Ur Elder’s
    Advice…
    not bcoz They R Always Rite
    But bcoz They Have More Experiences Of
    ‘Being Wrong’….!

 

  • Most Of D Problems In Life Are Because Of Two Reasons…
    First We Act Without Thinking…!
    Secondly
    We Keep Thinking Without Acting.

 

  • It Takes 3 Years To Learn How To Use
    The Tongue
    But A Lifetime To Learn
    Where & When To Use Appropriately

 

  • Harsh Reality Of Life!
    Every one Is Good To U. Till U Expect Nothing From Them..
    & U R Too Good To Them Only Till U Full Fill Their Expectations…

 

  • The Best Way To
    Succeed In Life
    Is To Act On The
    Advice We
    Give To Others.

 

  • There r Only Two Ppl Who Can Tell U The Truth About You …
    A Friend Who Has Lost His Temper
    &
    Enemy Who Starts Loving U … !

 

  • Money Can’t Buy Happiness. . .
    But Somehow iT’s More Comfortable To Cry in A BMW Than On A Bicycle . . .

 

  • If you miss an opportunity
    don’t fill ur eyes with tears.
    It may hide yet another opportunity
    lying in front of you

 

  • No & Yes are the words which need a long thought.
    Most of the troubles in life are the result of saying Yes too soon or No too late

 

  • "Words r under your control until you speak them, but you come under their control once you have spoken them"

 

  • By the time you realize what your parents said was right,
    You will have a kid who will begin to think that you are wrong...

 

Credit goes to original compiler of these SMS message who posted this in a forum

Wednesday, April 01, 2009

Power of Positive Talk

A e-mail forward which is worth sharing with the world.

 

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I remember my dad teaching me the power of language at a very young age. Not only did my dad understand that specific words affect our mental pictures, but he understood words are a powerful programming factor in lifelong success.

One particularly interesting event occurred when I was eight. As a kid, I was always climbing trees, poles, and literally hanging around upside down from the rafters of our lake house. So, it came to no surprise for my dad to find me at the top of a 30-foot tree swinging back and forth. My little eight-year-old brain didn't realize the tree could break or I could get hurt. I just thought it was fun to be up so high.

My older cousin, Tammy, was also in the same tree. She was hanging on the first big limb, about ten feet below me. Tammy's mother also noticed us at the exact time my dad did. About that time a huge gust of wind came over the tree. I could hear the leaves start to rattle and the tree begin to sway. I remember my dad's voice over the wind yell, "Bart, Hold on tightly." So I did. The next thing I know, I heard Tammy screaming at the top of her lungs, laying flat on the ground. She had fallen out of the tree.

I scampered down the tree to safety. My dad later told me why she fell and I did not. Apparently, when Tammy's mother felt the gust of wind, she yelled out, "Tammy, don't fall!" And Tammy did. fall.

My dad then explained to me that the mind has a very difficult time processing a negative image. In fact, people who rely on internal pictures cannot see a negative at all. In order for Tammy to process the command of not falling, her nine-year-old brain had to first imagine falling, then try to tell the brain not to do what it just imagined. Whereas, my eight-year-old brain instantly had an internal image of me hanging on tightly.

This concept is especially useful when you are attempting to break a habit or set a goal. You can't visualize not doing something. The only way to properly visualize not doing something is to actually find a word for what you want to do and visualize that. For example, when I was thirteen years old, I played for my junior high school football team. I tried so hard to be good, but I just couldn't get it together at that age. I remember hearing the words run through my head as I was running out for a pass, "Don't drop it!" Naturally, I dropped the ball.

My coaches were not skilled enough to teach us proper "self-talk." They just thought some kids could catch and others couldn't. I'll never make it pro, but I'm now a pretty good Sunday afternoon football player, because all my internal dialogue is positive and encourages me to win. I wish my dad had coached me playing football instead of just climbing trees. I might have had a longer football career.

Here is a very easy demonstration to teach your kids and your friends the power of a toxic vocabulary. Ask them to hold a pen or pencil. Hand it to them. Now, follow my instructions carefully. Say to them, "Okay, try to drop the pencil." Observe what they do.

Most people release their hands and watch the pencil hit the floor. You respond, "You weren't paying attention. I said TRY to drop the pencil. Now please do it again." Most people then pick up the pencil and pretend to be in excruciating pain while their hand tries but fails to drop the pencil.

The point is made.

If you tell your brain you will "give it a try," you are actually telling your brain to fail. I have a "no try" rule in my house and with everyone I interact with. Either people will do it or they won't. Either they will be at the party or they won't. I'm brutal when people attempt to lie to me by using the word try. Do they think I don't know they are really telegraphing to the world they have no intention of doing it but they want me to give them brownie points for pretended effort? You will never hear the words "I'll try" come out of my mouth unless I'm teaching this concept in a seminar.

If you "try" and do something, your unconscious mind has permission not to succeed. If I truly can't make a decision I will tell the truth. "Sorry John. I'm not sure if I will be at your party or not. I've got an outstanding commitment. If that falls through, I will be here. Otherwise, I will not. Thanks for the invite."

People respect honesty. So remove the word "try" from your vocabulary.

My dad also told me that psychologists claim it takes seventeen positive statements to offset one negative statement. I have no idea if it is true, but the logic holds true. It might take up to seventeen compliments to offset the emotional damage of one harsh criticism.

These are concepts that are especially useful when raising children.

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Ask yourself how many compliments you give yourself daily versus how many criticisms. Heck, I know you are talking to yourself all day long. We all have internal voices that give us direction.

So, are you giving yourself the 17:1 ratio or are you shortchanging yourself with toxic self-talk like, " I'm fat. Nobody will like me. I'll try this diet. I'm not good enough. I'm so stupid. I'm broke, etc. etc."

 

If our parents can set a lifetime of programming with one wrong statement, imagine the kind of programming you are doing on a daily basis with your own internal dialogue. Here is a list of Toxic Vocabulary words.

Notice when you or other people use them.

Ø But: Negates any words that are stated before it.
Ø Try: Presupposes failure.
Ø If: Presupposes that you may not.
Ø Might: It does nothing definite. It leaves options for your listener.
Ø Would Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen.
Ø Should Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen (and implies guilt.)
Ø Could Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen but the person tries to take credit as if it did happen.
Ø Can't/Don't: These words force the listener to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want. This is a classic mistake that parents and coaches make without knowing the damage of this linguistic error.

Examples:
Toxic phrase: "Don't drop the ball!"
Likely result: Drops the ball
Better language: "Catch the ball!"

Toxic phrase: "You shouldn't watch so much television."
Likely result: Watches more television.
Better language: "I read too much television makes people stupid. You might find yourself turning that TV off and picking up one of those books more often!"

Exercise: Take a moment to write down all the phrases you use on a daily basis or any Toxic self-talk that you have noticed yourself using. Write these phrases down so you will begin to catch yourself as they occur and change them.

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